Sometimes we notice that we put a lot of our hopes into how we wish people, career or situations should be. We often project onto others, or onto the future, all that we unconsciously want to experience or feel is lacking in our own lives at this moment. We can build up stories around things fixed in certain ways. However, life, no matter how much we would like it to be, is never fixed, not even briefly. It is always changing. It can let us down. These changes have a way of loosening projections, and this allows us, even in the midst of disappointment and desolation, to take responsibility for our own happiness.
We need to recognize, let go and move on. Recognize the need for happiness which has been placed onto the person, the event or the future development. Let go of the projections and the unconscious baggage we have placed on them. Move on, letting the past take care of itself and keeping ones focus on the present. The easiest starting point to work on this is to notice the tendency to want things to be different from what they are and to practice giving up that strong preference.
By letting it go it all gets done.
The world is won by those who let it go.
But when you try and try.
The world is beyond the winning.
Lao Tzu
