Sometimes we can be fixed on our notion of how a thing should be and be in danger of throwing away the richness of how a thing actually is. What we need at times is the courage to embrace life as it is actually unfolding, and not try and shape it to some idea which we think it should be.The idea of love is not love
The idea of the ocean is neither salt nor sand;
The face of the seal cannot rise from the idea
to stare at you,
to astound your heart
Mary Oliver
